{"id":846,"date":"2014-01-29T23:55:11","date_gmt":"2014-01-30T07:55:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/?p=846"},"modified":"2014-01-29T23:55:11","modified_gmt":"2014-01-30T07:55:11","slug":"a-back-up-needs-a-back-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2014\/01\/29\/a-back-up-needs-a-back-up\/","title":{"rendered":"A back up needs a back up"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The nanny got sick today. We don&#8217;t have a back up plan. Burned&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Parenthood teaches you very quickly to expect that your back up needs a back up. It&#8217;s not enough to expect the kid to get dirty. They&#8217;re going to get dirty, and then pee through their diaper. One set of back up clothes is never enough.<\/p>\n<p>Same with snacks (you&#8217;ll get stuck in traffic, and need a back up plan). Same with diapers<\/p>\n<p>The hard part is that when people are involved it gets harder and harder to have a back up plan. Without having some infinite cash flow to hold folks on retainer, how the hell do you build up a network of nannies and babysitters that make this problem go away?<\/p>\n<p>The real answer is&#8230; live close to family. Especially family who are keen to help out with the kids.<\/p>\n<p>But in that we&#8217;ve made a <a title=\"It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s official! We own a house.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2014\/01\/its-official-we-own-a-house\/\">pretty big commitment<\/a> that doesn&#8217;t make that easy&#8230; we need a back up plan.<\/p>\n<p>The hard part of the back up plan is the kids. They have a routine. They have patterns, favorites, likes, and dislikes. Getting someone caught up on all of this part time feels impossible. Interviewing for nannies is hard. I just don&#8217;t know how we pull it off&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I guess we just get them into school \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The nanny got sick today. We don&#8217;t have a back up plan. Burned&#8230; Parenthood teaches you very quickly to expect that your back up needs a back up. It&#8217;s not enough to expect the kid to get dirty. They&#8217;re going to get dirty, and then pee through their diaper. One set of back up clothes [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[64,1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pQyAq-dE","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":963,"url":"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2014\/02\/28\/doruks-in-town\/","url_meta":{"origin":846,"position":0},"title":"Doruk's in town!","date":"February 28, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Even though their flight got canceled, and they were delayed for 4 hours, Doruk and Hanna have made it to town. The babies are sleeping, and missed seeing them, but I fully expect Amelia to catch up quickly in no time at all. 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