{"id":1279,"date":"2014-10-25T20:05:18","date_gmt":"2014-10-26T03:05:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/?p=1279"},"modified":"2014-10-25T20:05:18","modified_gmt":"2014-10-26T03:05:18","slug":"26-days-til-30","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2014\/10\/25\/26-days-til-30\/","title":{"rendered":"26 days til 30"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Life advice (Part I)<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s a common piece of advice that I got from tons of folks in life which is just plain wrong, and I learned it was wrong over the last decade:<\/p>\n<p>The world says, &#8220;Don&#8217;t get married young. Enjoy life first, and get to experience things a bit more.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The world is wrong. <\/p>\n<p>I think that the real checklist isn&#8217;t some magic number or set of odd ball life experiences. Instead it should be:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Make sure you&#8217;ve paid your own bills for at least a year<\/li>\n<li>Make sure you&#8217;ve gotten into a major disagreement, and survived<\/li>\n<li>Ask yourself if you could imagine the children you want to have being exactly like that person<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And then go for it. <\/p>\n<p>You could still be completely wrong. But, you&#8217;ve proven a few basics about yourself and your relationship. <\/p>\n<p>Everything else is what you&#8217;re willing to put into it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Life advice (Part I) There&#8217;s a common piece of advice that I got from tons of folks in life which is just plain wrong, and I learned it was wrong over the last decade: The world says, &#8220;Don&#8217;t get married young. Enjoy life first, and get to experience things a bit more.&#8221; The world is [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[4,1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pQyAq-kD","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":35,"url":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2006\/11\/04\/ssa-iii-day-three\/","url_meta":{"origin":1279,"position":0},"title":"SSA III - Day Three","date":"November 4, 2006","format":false,"excerpt":"Today was a tough day. In fact, I've probably never had a harder day shooting pictures. So, the day started poorly. I was supposed to wake up early and get to the barns. I didn't wake up in time. 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