Things to do better (Part I)<\/p>\n
Staying connected to friends<\/strong><\/p>\n Since I’ve moved to San Francisco, I’ve been a C+ friend at best. A bunch of my closest friends are coming up to the mountains this weekend, and I’m lucky they aren’t the type to count phone calls missed, trips we didn’t take, and everything else. <\/p>\n They’re just genuine and honest, and I’m really lucky. <\/p>\n I’ve really stunk it up with my friendships in SF as well. I’m just constantly using work and the kids as an excuse to not make an effort to invest in other people. It’s wrong, and lazy, and, quite honestly, really lonely. <\/p>\n So this next decade I’m going to be better at friendships. <\/p>\n I don’t see the who changing very much, but I’m very convinced that the what will be much better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Things to do better (Part I) Staying connected to friends Since I’ve moved to San Francisco, I’ve been a C+ friend at best. 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