{"id":1320,"date":"2014-11-07T14:45:43","date_gmt":"2014-11-07T22:45:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/?p=1320"},"modified":"2014-11-07T14:45:43","modified_gmt":"2014-11-07T22:45:43","slug":"13-days-til-30","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2014\/11\/07\/13-days-til-30\/","title":{"rendered":"13 days til 30"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Things to do better (Part II)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be a better son<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I think that over the last 10 years, and especially the last 6, I&#8217;ve been a C- son at best. From my point of view, my parents have been equally bad parents. I think though that it&#8217;s time we all change that. <\/p>\n<p>For me, it&#8217;s going to take a lot of patience, and putting in some effort towards being a better listener. It&#8217;s a weird time in all of our lives right now, and I think that we all lack the interpersonal skills needed to work through it. The change has to start somewhere, and I&#8217;ve unilaterally signed myself up. <\/p>\n<p>I know that what I need to do is:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Engage more, and on a more pro-active basis<\/li>\n<li>Be more forthcoming about where I am, where I&#8217;m going, and how I&#8217;m doing<\/li>\n<li>Give up some bad feelings, and start to forgive<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>From my parents, I&#8217;d love to see:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>More engagement with fewer rules, cultural expectations, and baggage<\/li>\n<li>Less problem solving &#8211; especially when there is no problem to solve<\/li>\n<li>Questions instead of assumptions<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It&#8217;s going to be incredibly hard, but I think the outcome will make it worth the effort.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Things to do better (Part II) Be a better son I think that over the last 10 years, and especially the last 6, I&#8217;ve been a C- son at best. From my point of view, my parents have been equally bad parents. I think though that it&#8217;s time we all change that. For me, it&#8217;s [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[4,1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pQyAq-li","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":1291,"url":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2014\/10\/27\/24-days-til-30\/","url_meta":{"origin":1320,"position":0},"title":"24 days til 30","date":"October 27, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Surprise (Part III) People change... a lot :-\/ I'm really surprised at how much people change when they hit the real world. Sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's genuinely bad. 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