Things to do better (Part IV)<\/p>\n
Picking me versus everyone else<\/strong><\/p>\n One thing my mom always got right was her observation that I do for others way more than I do for myself or my family. <\/p>\n And I think the imbalance has gotten to the point where it’s actually that I do nothing for everyone because I’m too focused on being a chicken with my head cut off. <\/p>\n And so, as I head into the last ten days of my twenties, the major area of focus for me is learning to pick myself, which will in turn make me better at work\/life balance, being a good son, and being a better friend.<\/p>\n Or at the very least it will mean I’m running around in a panic a lot less.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Things to do better (Part IV) Picking me versus everyone else One thing my mom always got right was her observation that I do for others way more than I do for myself or my family. And I think the imbalance has gotten to the point where it’s actually that I do nothing for everyone […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[4,1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pQyAq-lm","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":519,"url":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2012\/02\/20\/observing-what-not-to-do-can-it-help\/","url_meta":{"origin":1324,"position":0},"title":"Observing what not to do - can it help?","date":"February 20, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"We've just spent an amazing weekend on the shores of Capitola, CA. It's a really great, quiet, little beach town in Santa Cruz County. We made a full weekend of it. 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