It’s fascinating how much of the reflection we see in the mirror is a reflection of what others have told us about ourselves. In this case, it’s more of a metaphorical mirror, and also more of a metaphorical reflection.<\/p>\n
But it has a bigger impact than the physical one that I can actually look at.\u00c2\u00a0And taking control of it is also much harder.<\/p>\n
But I think I’ve done it \ud83d\ude42 And it feels amazing. Obviously Theo helped. You see, he doesn’t have that problem, and somehow he showed me how to approach it the same way he does. By not approaching it all.<\/p>\n
And then there are those dance parties, curtains wide open, with two screaming, happy babies. They care a lot. Which friend said what. Whose feelings got hurt by inclusion or exclusion. But man they shake it off fast.<\/p>\n
And then a kiss. A hug. A sneak ice cream that mommy doesn’t notice. It just fixes everything.<\/p>\n
It’s awesome. And I don’t mind at all if I just copy their approach. It’s much better than the one I was doing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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