to validate a passport<\/em>.<\/li>\n<\/blockquote>\nIt’s as simple as a good job from someone who notices what you’ve done, or a feeling before you go to bed that you’re the man. There isn’t a single formula across which validation works for everyone, but it is something that everyone needs.<\/p>\n
The really interesting bit is that for some it’s an internal validation that they’ve accomplished something. I think there’s a real luck to this kind of person because they can find something that they love, and be happy doing it, and that’s the extent of the validation loop. The effort, blood, sweat and tears are all summed up in that feeling at the end of the day that they’re proud of themselves. End of story.<\/p>\n
I think though that the more relevant case for me is an external validation. Not necessarily in words, but in body language. I want to see in your eyes that you get it. I want to hear your heart beat a little bit louder because you’re excited. I want to see the chill across your skin when you realize what a game changer I’m sharing with you. It’s that instant moment of, yup, we just did that, that makes the journey so sweet at the end.<\/p>\n
You want to motivate me… give me the chance to blow your mind.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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From dictionary.com: val\u00c2\u00b7i\u00c2\u00b7date \u00e2\u20ac\u201cverb\u00c2\u00a0(used\u00c2\u00a0with\u00c2\u00a0object),\u00c2\u00a0-dat\u00c2\u00b7ed,\u00c2\u00a0-dat\u00c2\u00b7ing. to\u00c2\u00a0make\u00c2\u00a0valid;\u00c2\u00a0substantiate;\u00c2\u00a0confirm:\u00c2\u00a0Time\u00c2\u00a0validated\u00c2\u00a0oursuspicions. to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[4,1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pQyAq-6D","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":404,"url":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2010\/11\/01\/understanding-motivation-part-2\/","url_meta":{"origin":411,"position":0},"title":"Understanding motivation - part 2","date":"November 1, 2010","format":false,"excerpt":"My younger brother called me today to let me know about his LSAT score. 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