{"id":431,"date":"2011-02-21T22:34:18","date_gmt":"2011-02-22T06:34:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/?p=431"},"modified":"2011-02-21T22:34:18","modified_gmt":"2011-02-22T06:34:18","slug":"the-importance-of-not-losing-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onvural.net\/melih\/thoughts\/2011\/02\/21\/the-importance-of-not-losing-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"The importance of not losing yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

I had a really great three-day weekend. Micky and I did a lot to get the nursery started. The walls are white, with one aqua colored wall. We moved a bunch of stuff in storage with the help of One Big Man, One Big Truck<\/a>, and moved a couch and trunk out of storage and into the baby’s room. My red couch escapes!<\/p>\n

I got to play some soccer this weekend, worked out today and hacked on some stuff that I’m really starting to get excited about (hopefully more on that coming soon).<\/p>\n

The big win this weekend though was getting to do dinner with Saket. We’re at very similar places in our careers, and in a lot of ways our lives (Saket isn’t married with a kid on the way, but in general). I noticed on Saturday night that Saket and I meet in social situations a lot. We have to “share” each other per se. Saturday we just guy bonded, and it was really excellent.<\/p>\n

It was a really awesome chance to reflect on myself while reflecting in Saket’s experiences. We talked about the naivety of college kids (which will be my next post), management styles under which we’ve worked, the frustration of the current political system and the situation in the Middle East. <\/p>\n

I miss having conversations like that, and I feel as if I’ve lost them in some sense since leaving school. The problem is that it’s all we did in school, so relatively it’s a complete loss. The late night IHOP, going to Waqaar’s house and smoking hookah, being in Watauga Hall and up til 2am talking. I realized Saturday night that those moments and conversations are really important to me.<\/p>\n

Now, I feel as if people do things in bigger contexts. Dinner parties with lots of people. Going to the games. It just feels big. The intimacy of one-on-one time with a friend is lost. I don’t know why that is. Are we too busy? Are we just trying to multi-task friendships as well? I hate to sit down and actually answer those questions because I don’t think I’ll like the answers.<\/p>\n

But this weekend, I got it back, and all was well again. Even if the wall is aqua and not orange.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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