There aren’t many examples of aging gracefully on my side of the family.<\/p>\n
My grandfather on my dad’s side I barely remember being healthy (though I remember him living life fully and with a smile). My grandfather on my mom’s side was an ox, but then pneumonia & cancer got the better of him as well.<\/p>\n
On my dad’s side, my grandmother has dementia.<\/p>\n
Physical problems slow down the grandmother on my mom’s side (though she’s done amazingly well, and so maybe she’s the exception that proves the rule).<\/p>\n
That’s why when I see Mike (my father-in-law) chase the kids, help paint the house, and chase after Micky, it blows my mind. The family of his who I have met (Patty, Monica) are equally well put together. I think it’s really great for the kids.<\/p>\n
I talked to a financial adviser who told me that if I lived to be 95 years old, I’d need some big number millions of dollars to pay for my needs. I laughed. I’ve never wanted to live past 70 because in our family it doesn’t happen gracefully. But maybe it’s still possible…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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